The Grounded Expat
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Not sure what’s wrong? That’s okay, because all you need to know is what’s feeling hard right now.

Below are the places people tend to find themselves when they live abroad. Look for the one that sounds most like where you are today, and if more than one fits, that’s normal, so start with whichever feels closest.

Before you go

I’m thinking about moving

You keep imagining it, and you’re also working out what it might cost you, and who you’d be leaving behind.

Before you go

I’m leaving soon

The goodbyes, the guilt, and the strange grief of the last few weeks. The part everyone rushes past.

Arriving

I just got here

Everything is new, including the things that shouldn’t be. Buying bread is a project. So are you.

The hard middle

The excitement’s worn off

The shine is gone, and you’re wondering whether you made a mistake.

The hard middle

I miss home

You miss the people, the ease, and the version of yourself who lived there, even on the days you don’t want to go back.

The hard middle

I’m lonely

You’re meeting people, and you still haven’t found your people, which tends to take longer than anyone expects.

The hard middle

I’m exhausted

The kind of tired that builds up from adapting all day, every day, in a place that doesn’t run on your defaults.

Becoming

I don’t feel like myself

You used to know what you were good at. Now half the day goes on things that used to be automatic, and you’re not sure who the new version is yet.

Relationships

I moved for someone else

Their job, their dream, your whole life. The grief and the invisible work of it rarely get named out loud.

Life on the move

I’m living on the move

You can go anywhere. Some days that’s freedom and some days you’ve lost the thread of what it’s all for.

Going home

I’m going home

You’re not the person who left, and home didn’t stay still either, so going back is more complicated than it sounds.

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Find The Grounded Expat where you like to spend time.

Essays, gentle reminders, and honest notes about the inner side of living abroad.

Not sure what you need

Then don’t start by choosing.

Write down what’s actually going on, in whatever shape it comes out. It doesn’t have to be clear or make sense yet. You’ll get one question back to take a little deeper.

No diagnosis. No advice. No fixing.

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If you’d rather not do this on your own.

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The Circle

A small, steady place for people living abroad, where the in-between is understood and you don’t have to explain why something you chose can still be hard.

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